Friday, March 14th, 2008
I go to public parties around town and before my friend -rl- got a hold of the DM team there was judgment and questioning about certain activities. Was it UNSAFE. Not always. Nope. Not at all. I actually remember a "you didn't warm her up" admonishment." Yeah. Oh! Did that ...
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Friday, March 14th, 2008
I'm troubled by the "bad" top talk.
And the notion that most sincere people are doing the best they can at any given moment.
And what about a top that wants to be true to who they think they are?
I remember some shit going 'round about me and my "aftercare". Well you ...
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Thursday, March 13th, 2008
How much fun was THAT!
I've never been to Bang 4 the Buck. And being in the presence of over 200 women all lathered up and scantily dressed was certainly this side of heaven.
Saturday's workshop was illuminating as I have frequently found Midori's sessions to be. And as always I am ...
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Sunday, March 9th, 2008
My conversations over the past few weeks combined with the personal commitment I made to myself at the beginning of this year is moving my mojo.
So I'm doing more than thinking about it. I'm putting my time and money where my desire is.
I've booked a space in Vancouver late-April-ish and ...
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Sunday, March 9th, 2008
I was birthed into public BDSM/kink/leather and have grown up in Vancouver. Prior to that I was practicing D/s in private in Alberta without context or community or vernacular. I just made the shit up. When I moved to Vancouver and came out publicly into BDSM, I looked around and ...
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Saturday, March 8th, 2008
I was talking last night with a dominant who had recently split with their ______ (I don't know what the word is for their thing). And she was talking about the absence and how to be around the person would cause her to break into tears.
And we talked about how ...
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Sunday, January 28th, 2007
I feel like I just gained some insight into something that my boi has been trying to express to me. And something I said this morning too.
I said, "I wonder how I do it." Which was met with a blank stare by the poor creature.
I don't know how I do ...
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Monday, January 8th, 2007
I was playing with C---- this weekend, in the bathtub, and a comment was made about me interrogating C---- like I had done with a mutual friend at a dinner party the night before.
I said that I did not *DO* interrogation scenes and, C---- laughed at me like I ...
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Thursday, December 28th, 2006
I just came out of a fulltime D/s association. I released the person from service but we have managed to find a way to evolve into primary partners... (I think that is what I woudl call it...). The language and details are still really weird.
There is still a recognition that ...
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Wednesday, December 28th, 2005
I've been thinking A LOT about how there are lots of workshops at lots of conferences dealing with BDSM 101, 201, 301, etc. But I have never seen anything about modified BDSM practices. And that is not only from the stand point of those who are aging, but for those ...
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Monday, October 31st, 2005
So.. I've always been interested in
1) the idea of online training and
2) interested about how people weave the power exchange long distance
I've always been concious to NOT find myself in these situations however I have received many requests and inquiries about online training over the years, and now I find ...
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Monday, October 24th, 2005
Personally... I'm not receptive to my charge arguing with me. Disagreeing? Sure. Advocating a point of view? Go for it. But raised voices or confrontational language or belligerent behaviour are things I can not have in my relationship. I've experienced it in the past and have decided that I ...
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Saturday, October 8th, 2005
For years I have heard tales and read fiction about people living off of another. The real life tales tend to end badly and the fiction... welll... its fiction. And it seems on the real life ones that the person who is the recipient/taker always seems to have evil qualities.
I ...
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