Archive for the ‘Our Actions > BDSM’ Category
Wednesday, March 18th, 2009
You provide the services of a top as directed to those who request it. Nothing wrong with that.
I suppose there may be a few ways of looking at that:
There are those who would find what you do to be a type of bottoming in that you are following direction that ...
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Thursday, March 5th, 2009
REALLY looking forward to going to this with an elder kinkster friend of mine. The Art of Loving, a retailer of adult products here in Vancouver, presents the History of Consensual Sadomasochism, a presentation by Peter Tupper.
History like you never learned it in school! From the marriage rites of ancient ...
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Friday, December 12th, 2008
I've always said that SM is a team sport. Except for when it's not
I love lending energy through appreciative watching, by playing lube/glove/condom girl or full on cheering/egging on the action.
I love a good group scene. The planning over cocktails and pizza; the psychological tormenting of the victim/s ...
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Wednesday, November 26th, 2008
I've been screaming about the intersection of race and BDSM for a bit (not as loud as some though!) Even at this past weekend's event I brought it up. No surprise when it came to the response of the participants. One of the presenters, Rope, who is Native American, lobbed ...
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Sunday, June 1st, 2008
May I stand beside you and help hold space as an ally?
I asked this of a woman on a forum who was being given a hard, hard time by some of the members.
As a dyke, I found the conversation disturbing and alienating. It reminded me of conversations with white people ...
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Friday, March 14th, 2008
I go to public parties around town and before my friend -rl- got a hold of the DM team there was judgment and questioning about certain activities. Was it UNSAFE. Not always. Nope. Not at all. I actually remember a "you didn't warm her up" admonishment." Yeah. Oh! Did that ...
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Wednesday, May 17th, 2006
Dentists are hoorible. Think about it...
They have the highest suicide rate of any profession. And when I worked for a provincial human rights agency, I was surprised to see how many complaints of harassment (of a type not covered by the code, which is to say personal and not ...
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Sunday, February 5th, 2006
When I drop, I become, crabby and irritable and non-communicative. I don't want anyone around me and I don't want to talk to anyone in person or on the phone. It's kinda like a bad depressive state. I wanna drink, I wanna sleep and I wanna watch bad TV with ...
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Wednesday, December 28th, 2005
I've been thinking A LOT about how there are lots of workshops at lots of conferences dealing with BDSM 101, 201, 301, etc. But I have never seen anything about modified BDSM practices. And that is not only from the stand point of those who are aging, but for those ...
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Thursday, December 1st, 2005
I'm smallish in size (5'1" and 160 lbs) But I'm big when it comes to torment! Being small means that there are times when F/folks underestiment what I am capable of.
On the other hand, there are times where I steadfastly insist that because I'm little... there's Ab-sol-lute-ly No-thing to ...
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