So, like a fool I log on before I’ve had coffee or taken my morning shit. STOOOPID.
Some dude comes online: Some black kids in a cafeteria were using it and a white teach said she was offended and the kids looked at her…. and, what if the word in play was faggot…
So I went off and was not polite. JEH-ZUS. I’ll be a little more clear here than there. what I catually wrote is further on.
Dude: children and mad dogs get a different measuring stick than those masquerading as adults. And, Dude, is “faggot” the BEST you can do? Really? Did you think through the non-existent argument before you hit submit? Did you think we would do the work for you and just KNOW what your point was? ‘Cause in the absence of accompanying analysis… I’m judging you. Sorry. Try again. OK?
A poster brought up her position of power and how that related to her use of the word. I was thankful to her for bringing power into the conversation. Class should be there and so should geographic culture.
But ultimately this is Race 101 shit. It’s people on the playground pretending to be adults. There ain’t a lot of smart so I’m not certain why I continue to go wading. I will say that EM dived in a couple times and as always she wrote in a smart accessible way. And ya know what? Folks took it personally and DIDN’T get it. GAWD. You don’t have to agree people! Just get it and abe additive to the conversation!
I’m totally revising my egotistic view that kinksters are smarter than the average meat suit walking around out there. I did it once with a group of lesbians online and again online with a group of LeatherDykes (a lot of that is archived in this blog). My Sisterly-Frenemy FF is right and I keep wanting to deny it: folks just ain’t that bright around this. They want to ignore or forget or justify or defend or protect or whatever. There isn’t ACTUALLY a lot of good will around “gettting it”.
I tend to think that I am intermediate in an advanced world. That I have a lot to learn and there are lots of folks out there who are waaay smarter than me. I feel like I spend a lot of time trying to catch up and to be worthy to open my mouth. I’m vociferous when I speak, and often seem positional, but usually I’m just wanting people to be more clear and to intelligently back their shit. I love being wrong actually. It’s an opportunity to learn and that is porn to me. Different than office supply porn but just as powerful…
Mama is tired. And NO. Not everyone reading this gets to call me that.
Here’s want I ranted next:
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