Arguing with my charge

Personally… I’m not receptive to my charge arguing with me. Disagreeing? Sure. Advocating a point of view? Go for it. But raised voices or confrontational language or belligerent behaviour are things I can not have in my relationship. I’ve experienced it in the past and have decided that I will not go there now or in the future. Period. And I am quite willing to issue ultimatums like the one you got Laura.

In my experience, “arguments” that are really about a charge’s personal resistance are easy. They require time, communication, listening and compassion. The ones that are about toothpaste caps or bad tapes from the past are more challenging. And for me, I find the most important thing I can do is to stay grounded yet flexible — to be willing to lay down the law and stick to it (’cause I’m a marshmallow underneath it all).
I’m not an unreasonable woman, and I am totally receptive to my charge telling me that my foot is on fire or that their foot is on fire. I accept that because I was born a fallible human being that I am going to be wrong, and I love finding out that I am. It offers up an opportunity for me to learn and grow. Role/status (or however one puts that) does not render one infallible or less human. And frankly… for me? I’m greatful to have my boi’s extra set of eyes on the look out.

But at the end of the day hy (and I anticipate my future D/s relations) need to internalize that our weave is comes down to trust. Trust me with your surrender, and trust that because I don’t hurt my toys, I get a final veto which you can also trust.

And that’s just a quickie snapshot of me. Not a treatsie on how it should/could/does work for others. Looking forward to hearing other views..